The Permanent Secretary’s position was revealed by a source close to his legal representatives led by Audu Anuga SAN.

In the new revelation, the Permanent Secretary denied having made any sexual advances at the Ministerial aide, stating that his insistence on financial prudence and due process led to his friction with Mrs Fajemirokun-Ajayi.

“We wish to state categorically that our client has never made any sexual advances towards Mrs. Simisola O. Fajemirokun-Ajayi, who he is aware is a married woman, neither has he ever made suggestive comments or innuendos that requested any form of untoward relationship between himself and her,” a part of the statement read.

It further explained that the Permanent Secretary’s jocular remarks and ordinary conversations with the petitioner were misinterpreted by the aide.

“Our client distinctly recalls the events that took place at the Ministry’s Retreat on October 7th 2023 where Mrs Simisola O. Fajemirokun-Ajayi claims that he invited her to his room. Our client states categorically that, he never made such an invitation and that his only communication with Mrs Fajemirokun-Ajayi, which was an overt one, was where he checked on her, like he did to all participants on whether they had been well-lodged in their hotels.

“He further recalls that the instance where he spoke of her as a nursing mother, during the same retreat was in a colloquial conversation they were having with other participants, where one participant even responded jokingly that when a woman says “her baby” it could mean either her husband or one of her children, of which he innocuously joked asking “how big is the baby?” Our client maintains that those conversations were made jokingly and sees their misinterpretation as malicious and with ill-intent,” the statement noted.

Denying that Ambassador Lamuwa requested the Minister’s aide to travel with him to Hong Kong, the legal representative described the insinuation that such a request was made as absurd.

“Our client also maintains that it is an absurdity for Mrs. Fajemirokun-Ajayi to claim that he invited her to Hong Kong, given that the conversation they were both having was on how Honk Kong had digitised its work processes as far back as 1999.

“Our client wonders how such a conversation became interpreted as an invitation for her to travel alongside himself knowing fully well that she is an aide to the Minister. How can she possibly leave the Minister to follow the Permanent Secretary, on a vacation? Would that not be the height of delusion for the one requesting, as well as the one heeding to the request?”

The statement further stated that the Mrs. Fajemirokun-Ajayi had misinterpreted the ordinary conversations they had in public, and that this was tied to the Permanent Secretary’s “objections raised regarding improper requests” from the Minister’s aide.

“It is clear that the Minister’s aide has misinterpreted ordinary conversations, made openly and in the presence of other participants, for untoward intentions. We believe that these allegations are directly tied to our client’s firm objections raised regarding improper requests that Mrs Fajemirokun-Ajayi made, particularly to financial matters in the Ministry.

“For example, Mrs. Fajemirokun-Ajayi made a trip to the World Economic Forum (Davos), of which she sought a reimbursement from the Ministry for. Our client firmly explained to her that while the Ministry may look at avenues to refund her expenses, it is not the appropriate process for a trip to be made without an approval, and then funded with taxpayers money after the fact.”

The statement went further to accuse Mrs. Fajemirokun-Ajayi of being unfamiliar with Civil Service Rules and processes, as she had requested for access to certain documents that were too sensitive for her clearance level as a political appointee.

“Further to this, is the fact of Mrs Fajemirokun-Ajayi’s unfamiliarity with Civil Service rules and processes where she had requested from our client access to Policy Files and even Financial Records of high-level activities of the Ministry.

“By no means, should the Permanent Secretary, as chief accounting officer of the Ministry provide such sensitive documents to an aide of the Minister, worse via a WhatsApp chat. There are due processes in government, and they must be followed.

“We must emphasise that Mrs Fajemirokun-Ajayi is a political appointee, and not a civil servant. Thus, matters of finance and policy are out of bounds for her in this instance.

“All these, seem to have angered Mrs Simisola O. Fajemirokun-Ajayi, so much that she has taken her offence to the level of concocting stories in order to tarnish our client’s image and character.”

Ambassador Adamu Lamuwa’s legal representative stated that he has served in the Ministry of Foreign Affairs for over three decades, and has never received a query or report bordering on issues of harassment throughout the period; further stating that the Ambassador is confident of being vindicated.

It would be recalled that Mrs. Fajemirokun-Ajayi, an aide to the Minister of Foreign Affairs had in a petition through her lawyers accused Ambassador Ibrahim Lamuwa of conducts of sexual harrassment at her place of work, as well as abuse of office and intimidation.

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Odunlade Adekola made this known through a video shared on his Instagram page.

Odunlade asked those accusing him of demanding sex before giving any movie role to release evidence, Daily Dates Nigeria reports.

According to Odunlade, those responsible for the rumour were trying to taint his image and bring him down.

The 42-year-old producer said: “If I ever asked you for sex before giving you a job come out and say it.

“I wouldn’t call those blogs because I can’t give them publicity for free. I joined Nollywood in 1996 and I’ve been trying to build my name to this level and some people would try to ruin my image just to put food on their table.

“They are trying to mislead my fans just to bring me down, anybody trying to bring me down God will bring them down.

“I need proof that I asked anyone for sex before giving any movie role, I just had to come out and clear this because of young ones coming to the industry.”

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“Children, for me, is the basic reason I need a man. Otherwise, their wahala is way too much than the short moment of sexual enjoyment they offer.” A mother of two told me recently when she accompanied her friend to a counselling session.

Her friend had made up her mind to quit her marriage because, according to her, she’s suffering in silence over the years without her man caring about her emotional wellbeing. This week alone, I have spoken to several women experiencing a similar problem in their marriages. At some point, I decided to attend to the issue this week.

Going through my mailbox, I have several issues relating to poor and fitful sexual activities affecting many homes. In most cases, women are the ones complaining. I have only three men out of 44 cases of sex-related issues I received between March and May 23, 2021. Their complaints are mostly about poor erection, quick ejaculation, neglect for weeks or months without intimacy, refusal to explore new techniques to improve the act and outright abandonment by their men while they chase after other women. The men’s cases also vary. One complained that he usually experience erectile dysfunction only at home; the second man complained that he could not satisfy his woman in bed no matter how hard he tried, while the third complained that his wife is “stingy with her body” as she won’t allow him access whenever he so desired. “It is over three months now that I slept with my wife. She even threatened to report that I raped her if I won’t let her be.” The man said he got to know through his wife that a man could be charged for rape in marriage. “I’m not the type that messes around with women. Otherwise, I would have had another relationship outside and abandon her.”

Among the feedback, a particular message is touching. It was sent by a woman who later called to explain further her situation. She has been married for 18 years but some years were spent in what she called “marital celibacy.” She revealed how for six years she feigned happiness that never existed to cover up for her man and maintain a semblance of a happy home. Her words:

“I never believed that marriage could be miserable for an ambitious woman like me until I experienced it. I entered into marriage with so much hope, excitement and desire for fulfilment as a young woman. I lived a relatively decent life throughout my school years. I reserved my urges and affection for my future husband so I could enjoy my marriage to the fullest. Before I married, I only had sex due to naivety and deceit in what could easily be termed rape or ‘induced sex’ because I was drugged through a drink by my boyfriend. He later apologised for his action but said he did it because I was not ready to allow him to have sex with me. The next man in my life 18 years after the incident is my husband.

“The first three years of my marriage was averagely exciting. After our second child, my man started keeping late nights by clubbing. Later, he began womanising to the extent of passing nights outside the home. This lasted for about four years until he contracted chronic sexually transmitted infections. As soon as I could no longer vouch for his decency, I didn’t allow him to have unprotected sex with me, and thank God I took that decision. As I write this mail, he is practically inactive as he couldn’t perform sexually again. He has spent so much money treating the infections which have not improved his condition. To be honest with you, I have been without sexual intimacy for six years now which is due to no fault of mine. People say husband and wife signed “for better, for worse” deal but not when you deliberately went randy to hurt your partner and then you expect the scorned, cheated partner to keep bearing the brunt of your reckless lifestyle. There’s a limit to human endurance. I’m tired, sir, and I want to quit.”

During our conversation, she explained that she suspected that her husband may have been harmed by one of her numerous girlfriends using diabolical powers. According to her, she heard her husband telling one of his friends during a telephone conversation that a particular woman had vowed to deal with him in a way he will regret having anything to do with her. “Sir, if you see my husband outside, you will think he’s a perfectly healthy man. I guess he got infected by the woman and he angrily confronted her. It led to serious acrimony that they threatened each other. It will be seven years next November that we had sexual intimacy last as a couple. I have been carrying the cross ever since; and, I’m now tired and too weak to continue. Therefore, I need to move on. I have just a life to live. I have tried enough.

“In all of this, he’s not remorseful. He’s seriously bitter about his health condition. He couldn’t open up to those that could help him. I have told him that I was tired and I will move on anytime soon,” she said, adding that her husband was not bothered about her notice.

She declined to link me up with her husband for us to talk and see if help can be accessed. She said her man is so secretive. “I don’t want his troubles, sir. Even his family members are not aware of his condition. They’re aware that we have issues but the depth of our problem is not known to them. They think it is a normal misunderstanding that couples do have. I’m sure they will know more when I quit.”

This woman is just one of many women who are squaring up to their emotional challenges quietly. Strong and principled women have “fallen” into extramarital affairs due to the vulnerable condition they found themselves in as a consequence of their ordeal. It takes the abundant grace of God in such precarious situation to trudge through the fainting moments. Indeed the spirit is willing but the flesh is so weak to carry through.

The reality is that both sexes do experience such challenges. Several men, including supposed “strong men”, are wailing in their closets as a result of what they go through under their roofs. It is not every “happy couple” that are truly happy. Many are mere packaging and make-believe. You need to work on your emotional life by upgrading your sex life for your happiness and fulfilment. Beyond sex, attitudinal and character modification is essential. Like I counselled the woman, all hope is not lost if she could convince her man to seek help and counseling from experts.

Without sex, there’s no deep bonding among couples. Sex makes the difference between friends and spouses. It is the only secret act that couples do without a witness. It is the right enjoyed by two legitimate partners. It has both health and emotional benefits. Likewise, sex lightens the mood, softens anger, diffuses tension, make couples bond stronger after quarrelling moments and, it is an ordained source of procreation where Godly seeds are brought forth.

Do have a sexy weekend.

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